Why Nobody Wants to Date the Conservatives (not even Themselves)
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Politics is a personality trait.
In an era when authoritarians are one step away from taking over the world, politics is a choice we can no longer take lightly. Nor should we. Not when it comes to friends, or lovers, not even when it comes to family. And certainly not when it comes to dating.
Your partner can make or break your life. If you’re a woman, they can even end it, or seriously alter your sense of safety and well-being.
So it’s obvious why fewer and fewer women (especially liberal women) want to date men who contributed to taking away their rights, who cheered for a political leader convicted of sex crimes, or who associate themselves with public figures who rejoice at the slogan “your body, my choice”.
What’s not so obvious is: what about the rest of the population? Why don’t most people, regardless of gender and political beliefs, want to date conservatives?
There are a few reasons, and I’ll explore them in the following paragraphs, but let me start from the premise of this article: women in general don’t want to date conservative men, and men in general prefer liberal women.
I hope we’re all mature enough to understand that I’m talking about majorities here, and anecdotal evidence doesn’t count.
Here are a few reasons for the odd part of this development, namely:
Why conservative women don’t want conservative men, and conservative men don’t want conservative women
If they have the same belief system, why don’t they want each other?
Why aren’t men crazy over dating and marrying a woman like Pearl Davis, for example, who is so extremely conservative (or rather alt-right) that she’s accusing women and feminism of all the ills in the world?
Why aren’t GOP’s female voters men’s first choice, even when they’re GOP voters themselves? Why aren’t people hooking up at Trump rallies? In the back of star-spangled pick-up trucks?
Why doesn’t every conservative woman in the world have a crush on JD Vance? After all, he’s quite good-looking, with those eyelashes and those chipmunk cheeks. No? Just me? Ok then.
There is one strong reason why these two categories don’t mix as well as they should: conservative men are conservative only when it comes to rights, but aren’t willing to put in the work when it comes to obligations.
Conservative women are traditional women: they want a man who would provide for them and their children, while they’re stay-at-home wives and moms.
Conservative men only talk about how great that would be, but they don’t provide the money, security, or protection for that to happen.
Some don’t because they can’t afford to be the only breadwinner for the whole family , which is absolutely natural in this economy. Single-income households are rare, and they usually only happen when the head of the family is a wealthy man. So whatever conversation about men as providers is not only outdated, but also economically impossible and kind of ridiculous.
Even in the case of yours truly, although I’m a very non-traditional woman, I can tell you for a fact I’d have no problem with a man providing for me and the cats while I cook, clean, and write. I’d enjoy that lifestyle.
But I do realize that’s just a fantasy that can’t turn into reality in today’s late-stage capitalism.
So that’s one thing traditional women can’t get from traditional men: the part where he provides all the money, and she provides all the loving care.
Reason no. 2: conservative women are hell-bent on marriage and children. From the get-go.
Which is a huge de-motivator for most men, conservative and otherwise.
Most men (conservative or otherwise) go on a date hoping they’re going to have a good time, and hopefully have some sex too. Most conservative women go on the date thinking: Is this my future husband and the father to my children?
Even if she doesn’t say it directly, that attitude seeps into the conversation, and it makes it rigid, difficult, like a job interview. It takes the fun right out of dating, and both people get to go back home unsatisfied, even frustrated.
Liberal women, on the other hand, are much more likely to go on a date and be interested in getting to know the man for himself, see how they feel with him, enjoy his company, see if he’s nice to the waiter, etc.
They’re assessing him as well, but they want to see if he’s a good man, not a good husband. Being husband-material is not a prerequisite, because not all liberal women date for marriage. Some date for fun, some for the company of a good man. Much less pressure — and who enjoys pressure, right?
Plus, liberal women are much more likely to sleep with someone sooner than conservatives, and let’s face it, men like that. Liberal women are also much more likely to be more skilled in the bedroom, which is a big plus.
Conservative women, especially the most religious of them, might be scared of sex, consider it a sin, see it as something wrong, maybe even save themselves for marriage.
Liberals don’t have so many limitations. But… and there’s a big but here — they wouldn’t touch a conservative man with a ten-foot pole.
So… what are poor conservative men supposed to do when they can’t get the women they want? It’s simple: they’re going to pretend they’re democrats!
This is nothing new. 57% of men on dating sites are lying about their political beliefs.
The phenomenon has a name, too: it’s called wokefishing. Like catfishing, but tricking people with politics instead of beauty or status.
It’s basically catfishing so-called “woke” women while pretending you’re a decent human being, although you voted against women’s rights. Because let’s face it, who would want you if you admitted to your true beliefs and personality?
But what’s the point in lying? Isn’t she going to figure it out at some point?
Yes, of course she will, but by the time the conservative shows his true colors, she’s already slept with him (big win for the guy!) or she might already be so invested in the relationship that it’s much more difficult to back down.
Plus, once she finds out, he can easily say that it’s just politics, why break up over something so unimportant, we shouldn’t let it divide us, etc.
I have a whole article and video dedicated to how society is cutting off Trump voters, and how they are always so shocked as to why. You can, and should, go watch it here or read it here:
This is the whole conservative male mindset, and the main reason why women don’t want to date them. If the guy wants the relationship, he doesn’t care about the woman’s standards and priorities.
He’s going to lie to make the relationship happen, even if it’s a gross betrayal of the woman, her needs, wants, feelings, personality, everything.
They don’t care about women — that’s why women don’t want to be around them.
In the long run, unless the republicans pass some law to force women to date them, the future of relationships looks grim for MAGAts. Plus, let’s not forget there are more liberal than conservative women anyway, so the chances are even slimmer.
So, where does that leave us?
Conservative men are trapped in a shrinking dating pool, increasingly avoided not just by liberal women, but by conservative women too , because beneath all the talk about traditional values, there’s often a gaping void where accountability, empathy, and actual follow-through should be.
Conservative women want providers; conservative men want obedience without offering stability. And liberal women? Well, they’d rather be alone (or with their vibrators and rescue cats) than date someone who voted against their humanity.
Dating is hard for everyone.
But it’s even harder when your political views signal a worldview that actively undermines your partner’s autonomy, rights, and safety.
These guys can try to lie their way through it — wokefish their way into a few dates — but sooner or later, the mask slips. And when it does, they shouldn’t act surprised when nobody wants to stick around.
Because at the end of the day, politics might not be the only thing that defines you , but it’s more than enough to disqualify you.
And no, JD Vance’s eyelashes aren’t going to save the conservatives’ love life.
Well, if this means that Trumpetoons do not reproduce, I'm delighted to hear it.
On the other hand, if it turns Trumpetoon men into insane incel killers, I'm worried.
I always asked guys on the first date “ do you like cats?” If they said no there was no second date
When asked why they didn’t like cats , they would say” they don’t do what you tell them to”
Then I would think “neither do I”. This won’t work